Dear Kaupapa/Impact-led Leaders
Motivated by a previous post from tuahine Rosie Spragg, and recent kōrero with whanau e Lee Timutimu, Cheryl Doig, Sina Cotter Tait – I decided to pen this post for all those who ‘go through the ringer’, whilst simultaneously trying to get s*** done.
Growing up small town Gen X, I was steeped in a culture of being ‘harty’ (tough-as). It was all about ‘hardening up,’ ‘getting on with it,’ and keeping your struggles to yourself. “People only need to know what they need to know,” was the mantra. I lived by this, navigating challenges solo, embodying ‘onwards and upwards.’
However, facing my current health journey, I’ve flipped the script. I’ve chosen to share my reality, not for sympathy and/or attention, but for transparency and understanding, allowing others to extend manaaki me tautoko (care and support). This approach has not only been liberating for me but has also revealed a significant shift in leadership and workplace dynamics.
Historically, prolonged illness could sideline you in the corporate world, potentially costing you the project or even your job. Engari, sharing my situation has resulted in nothing but support, even adjustments to project timelines to accommodate my needs. It’s a testament to the value of openness and the evolving culture of empathy in professional spaces.
This experience has been eye-opening, teaching me several lessons:
1. Authenticity mobilises support.
2. The power of ‘letting go’ empowers continued service to the kaupapa. (That’s me letting go of the things I don’t need to hold on to, for the sake of the kaupapa).
3. Vulnerability doesn’t equate to disposability.
I’ve also learned the importance of self-compassion and the collective strength found in our communities. It’s not about seeking sympathy or solutions in the form of cupcakes. What I need, and perhaps what we all need at times, is understanding, patience, and straight talk.
As we navigate our roles and responsibilities, let’s not underestimate the impact of sharing our truths. It’s not just about making space for ourselves, but also about fostering a culture where empathy and support are reflexes, not afterthoughts.
To everyone who’s been part of my journey thus far, Ngā mihi. Your patience and understanding mean more than words can express. Here’s to embracing our vulnerabilities and the strength found in community.
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